where can i get a 3 spoke steering wheel from???

Ebay? breakers yard?? Classifieds on the MINI forums?

You could try these:
Mini Spares UK - Mini Spares UK (http://minispares.jdc-1.titaninternet.co.uk/)

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Iv tried ebay and that, what model is the 3 spoke from as i can only find the ugly 2 spoke that iv already got

04-07 BMW MINI R53 3 SPOKE LEATHER STEERING WHEEL | eBay (http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/04-07-BMW-MINI-R53-3-SPOKE-LEATHER-STEERING-WHEEL-/170639464484?pt=UK_CarsParts_Vehicles_CarParts_SM&hash=item27bae79824)
Paddle Shift Steering Wheel For BMW Mini R52 Cooper S | eBay (http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/Paddle-Shift-Steering-Wheel-BMW-Mini-R52-Cooper-S-/280689716566?pt=UK_CarsParts_Vehicles_CarParts_SM&hash=item415a692d56)

Hardest part is getting the airbag for them though, they're as rare as hens teeth

I've got one from an R52 auto, it has the flappy paddles behind the wheel.

I have one for sale :-) It even comes with multi-function controls so you can try to fit them at a later date! Let me know if you're interested :-)