It entirely depends on what you want the car to feel/look like.
Flame Spokes look fantastic, and I'd have them everytime, but, they are £390 - Which is a large chunk of your over-spend!
The tinted windows do look god, but they aren't really that well tinted, more like 'lightly smoked', but they do look cool.
White lenses are a must IMO, a year after living with the standard ones are driving me crazy!
MFSW is a good option to have - Saves you messing around with the controls in the middle.
Visibility pack - can't really comment on that as neither of our Minis have had it
At the end of the day, it depends what you want from the car - If you want it to look really good, then ditch the MFSW, Vis Pack - If however, you want a car that's easier to live with, get the MFSW, Vis Pack, and ditch the larger wheels, the tints and the white lenses.
Sorry I couldn't be of more use, I'm utterly useless when it somes to things like this